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T O P I C R E V I E WGeeky(I posted in personal readings, but it gets so busy I thought I could cross post) http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/014571.html ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”GeekyI also wanted to add that I've known him for about 6-7 years, been friends for 5 years, close friends for about 2.5 years. It has always felt karmic (as some people describe it). It's as if we are intended to know each other for growth purposes. It's intense and somewhat heavy because we get into these spats about once every 3-4 months where we just bicker with each other. It always feels so sad and I am always the first person to go & apologize. After I posted earlier today, I did send him a picture of me with a handwritten "I'm sorry" note because I hate feeling like we have friction. He sent back a smiley face and I thought we'd be ok. However, about an hour later, we were at it again. I can't really discuss too much because I don't know if he or someone he knows is here but what I texted him was basically a compliment and he texted back this face :/I asked, "What??" Then I texted again & told him I had no idea why he made that face at me because I had no idea what I did wrong. No response. I'm so tired of this roller coaster with him. Unfortunately, I don't easily move on with my day. When I have conflict, my stomach stays in knots until it's resolved. And for some reason, I can't quit him.Any ideas on how long this might last would be super helpful. If there's some kind of transit that lasts a few days, I will do my best to lay low. ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”Faith-Tr sun and Jupiter squaring the apex & base of your kite, forming a grand cross-Tr Uranus on his sun-Mars (erratic thoughts and behavior...sometimes larger than life, other times selfish and non-intelligible)-Tr Mars-Chiron-Venus on his Mercury-moon...It's probably a good time to just lay low with him...My moon is conjunct his and I have felt weird lately. Like I just need to hibernate and fix myself. Your sun opposing his moon might just be more than he can handle at the moment...ETA: Second decan Pisces, the Cancer decan, is prone to reclusiveness. If he gives this face: ;/ to a compliment, it could just indicate that he is feeling a lack of confidence, ie "I don't agree with that compliment."But you know him better. Geeky quote:Originally posted by Faith:If he gives this face: ;/ to a compliment, it could just indicate that he is feeling a lack of confidence, ie "I don't agree with that compliment."But you know him better. You were exactly right.I texted him around midnight and asked if he was still up so I could call. He was up, so I called. I asked what was wrong with what I said earlier and he said nothing at all. He just wasn't feeling good in that moment. We spoke briefly but we seem ok. I can definitely feel the pulling away and I have to really calm myself down because when people put big walls up in front of me, I tend to come at them with a bulldozer.There are people who appreciate this, because they are prone to getting depressed and stuck in their own heads. But then there's this lovely creature. He's... something else. On a side note, someone said I should use Davison charts when looking at transits, so here ya go: ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”GeekyWe both have a lot going on in our relationships, but there is something specific he's going through with his girlfriend that I can relate to. She's a lot younger, and she's doing things that I did when I was younger (less mature, really, age isn't the issue).So he was telling me about it but like a typical Virgo, I went too deep into analysis for him. I think he knows that what I was telling him is completely true and he doesn't want to face that truth. He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."I don't like how she's acting out with him instead of communicating better, but I can understand her issues with him. So I tried to explain it to him so he could understand her better. I think if he starts talking about her again, I will just steer the conversation elsewhere. It's hard though because he gets SO EMOTIONAL that it's hard to get him to snap out of it. AubyanneOh, man, Geeky. It's not HIM, is it?babybull82 quote:Originally posted by Geeky:We both have a lot going on in our relationships, but there is something specific he's going through with his girlfriend that I can relate to. She's a lot younger, and she's doing things that I did when I was younger (less mature, really, age isn't the issue).So he was telling me about it but like a typical Virgo, I went too deep into analysis for him. I think he knows that what I was telling him is completely true and he doesn't want to face that truth. He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."I don't like how she's acting out with him instead of communicating better, but I can understand her issues with him. So I tried to explain it to him so he could understand her better. I think if he starts talking about her again, I will just steer the conversation elsewhere. It's hard though because he gets SO EMOTIONAL that it's hard to get him to snap out of it. Not astrology related, but this is why relationships fail, because instead of talking to each other about the relationship problems they talk to other people and in my eyes talking to another woman (whether best friend or not) about our relationship is a no-no..it creates intimacy and it could lead to other things. Of course not saying this is your case sounds like you guys have been friends for a long time but it DOES happen in different situations. And yes I agree, steer the conversations to something else and insist that he speaks to her about it. Geeky quote:Originally posted by Aubyanne:Oh, man, Geeky. It's not HIM, is it?Yeah. Ugh. I know. ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”Faith quote:Originally posted by Geeky:He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."Is he open to hearing the astrological reason for it? Does he know he's a Pisces moon-Mercury, and can never be truly happy with someone who speaks aggressively to him?Sorry....merely...projecting. GeekyHe is totally into astrology (that's why I know his birth time) but he hasn't offered up her birth details. We've looked at and discussed our own synastry, but if I ask for her birth details, it would be too intrusive for him. He complains a lot about the relationship, but when it comes down to it, he doesn't want advice or analysis. ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”theunknownHi Geeky,I've noticed this problem with many people who have mutable personal planets. Heck even I do it sometimes because the nature of my relationship with a person is so stiff I can't bring myself to say certain things out loud. I'm not sure what transits you are going through but if he doesn't try to resolve it with her, your analysis doesn't matter and this is none of your business any way. You should provide the type of emotional support that both your friend and you are comfortable with. There might be something in your own natal that indicates you are going too far for others .... That's my guess Geeky quote:Originally posted by theunknown:I'm not sure what transits you are going through but if he doesn't try to resolve it with her, your analysis doesn't matter and this is none of your business any way. You should provide the type of emotional support that both your friend and you are comfortable with. There might be something in your own natal that indicates you are going too far for others .... That's my guess Probably true. It's very difficult for me to hear someone complain over and over about the same thing without doing something, no matter what it is. I am by nature, a problem solver, so if you come to me with the same issue for months on end, I'm going to say something. ETA: We are both into astrology and we have explored our synastry together. I get along with him better than most humans but we know the weak points. I am just not well-versed on how transits can affect a composite, or even if they do at all. I thought that when we have rough patches, it could be transit related. It might have been because we're coming out of it now. Things seem almost back to normal. ------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”
------------------“Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.”
It has always felt karmic (as some people describe it). It's as if we are intended to know each other for growth purposes.
It's intense and somewhat heavy because we get into these spats about once every 3-4 months where we just bicker with each other. It always feels so sad and I am always the first person to go & apologize.
After I posted earlier today, I did send him a picture of me with a handwritten "I'm sorry" note because I hate feeling like we have friction. He sent back a smiley face and I thought we'd be ok.
However, about an hour later, we were at it again. I can't really discuss too much because I don't know if he or someone he knows is here but what I texted him was basically a compliment and he texted back this face :/
I asked, "What??" Then I texted again & told him I had no idea why he made that face at me because I had no idea what I did wrong.
No response.
I'm so tired of this roller coaster with him. Unfortunately, I don't easily move on with my day. When I have conflict, my stomach stays in knots until it's resolved. And for some reason, I can't quit him.
Any ideas on how long this might last would be super helpful. If there's some kind of transit that lasts a few days, I will do my best to lay low.
My moon is conjunct his and I have felt weird lately. Like I just need to hibernate and fix myself. Your sun opposing his moon might just be more than he can handle at the moment...
ETA: Second decan Pisces, the Cancer decan, is prone to reclusiveness.
If he gives this face: ;/ to a compliment, it could just indicate that he is feeling a lack of confidence, ie "I don't agree with that compliment."
But you know him better.
quote:Originally posted by Faith:If he gives this face: ;/ to a compliment, it could just indicate that he is feeling a lack of confidence, ie "I don't agree with that compliment."But you know him better.
You were exactly right.
I texted him around midnight and asked if he was still up so I could call. He was up, so I called. I asked what was wrong with what I said earlier and he said nothing at all. He just wasn't feeling good in that moment.
We spoke briefly but we seem ok.
I can definitely feel the pulling away and I have to really calm myself down because when people put big walls up in front of me, I tend to come at them with a bulldozer.
There are people who appreciate this, because they are prone to getting depressed and stuck in their own heads. But then there's this lovely creature. He's... something else.
On a side note, someone said I should use Davison charts when looking at transits, so here ya go:
So he was telling me about it but like a typical Virgo, I went too deep into analysis for him. I think he knows that what I was telling him is completely true and he doesn't want to face that truth.
He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."
I don't like how she's acting out with him instead of communicating better, but I can understand her issues with him. So I tried to explain it to him so he could understand her better.
I think if he starts talking about her again, I will just steer the conversation elsewhere. It's hard though because he gets SO EMOTIONAL that it's hard to get him to snap out of it.
quote:Originally posted by Geeky:We both have a lot going on in our relationships, but there is something specific he's going through with his girlfriend that I can relate to. She's a lot younger, and she's doing things that I did when I was younger (less mature, really, age isn't the issue).So he was telling me about it but like a typical Virgo, I went too deep into analysis for him. I think he knows that what I was telling him is completely true and he doesn't want to face that truth. He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."I don't like how she's acting out with him instead of communicating better, but I can understand her issues with him. So I tried to explain it to him so he could understand her better. I think if he starts talking about her again, I will just steer the conversation elsewhere. It's hard though because he gets SO EMOTIONAL that it's hard to get him to snap out of it.
Not astrology related, but this is why relationships fail, because instead of talking to each other about the relationship problems they talk to other people and in my eyes talking to another woman (whether best friend or not) about our relationship is a no-no..it creates intimacy and it could lead to other things. Of course not saying this is your case sounds like you guys have been friends for a long time but it DOES happen in different situations.
And yes I agree, steer the conversations to something else and insist that he speaks to her about it.
quote:Originally posted by Aubyanne:Oh, man, Geeky. It's not HIM, is it?
Yeah. Ugh. I know.
quote:Originally posted by Geeky:He also can't get why she's so cold and angry towards him and I'm like, "dude because A, B & C... I totally get it."
Is he open to hearing the astrological reason for it?
Does he know he's a Pisces moon-Mercury, and can never be truly happy with someone who speaks aggressively to him?
Sorry....merely...projecting.
I've noticed this problem with many people who have mutable personal planets. Heck even I do it sometimes because the nature of my relationship with a person is so stiff I can't bring myself to say certain things out loud. I'm not sure what transits you are going through but if he doesn't try to resolve it with her, your analysis doesn't matter and this is none of your business any way. You should provide the type of emotional support that both your friend and you are comfortable with.
There might be something in your own natal that indicates you are going too far for others .... That's my guess
quote:Originally posted by theunknown:I'm not sure what transits you are going through but if he doesn't try to resolve it with her, your analysis doesn't matter and this is none of your business any way. You should provide the type of emotional support that both your friend and you are comfortable with. There might be something in your own natal that indicates you are going too far for others .... That's my guess
Probably true. It's very difficult for me to hear someone complain over and over about the same thing without doing something, no matter what it is. I am by nature, a problem solver, so if you come to me with the same issue for months on end, I'm going to say something.
ETA: We are both into astrology and we have explored our synastry together. I get along with him better than most humans but we know the weak points. I am just not well-versed on how transits can affect a composite, or even if they do at all. I thought that when we have rough patches, it could be transit related.
It might have been because we're coming out of it now. Things seem almost back to normal.
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